Weddings are everybody’s favourite affair, they are among those few events that accord people the freedom to make merry with little restrictions. In the African setting, we rarely do invites, anybody who has time is always welcomed to share in the ceremony, especially the free food. But there are few behaviours that I have come to notice with most Kenyan weddings based on the ones I have had the pleasure of attending. Behaviours that sometimes threaten the harmony of the wedding. I am sure in one of the weddings you have attended so far, you have witnessed the following uncouth habits
#5. Poor Time Keeping
Africans are allergic to keeping time, it’s a disease that I have resigned myself to. It has actually reached a point where I get surprised when a Kenyan keeps time. Among the many things involved in the planning of a wedding, is coming up with some form of schedule where everything is clearly arranged in an chronological order each with its corresponding time. But I guess this is for formality. I was in a wedding this past weekend, the schedule clearly indicated that the exchange of the vows would start at 11am, to my complete lack of surprise it started at 1 pm. The decor that had been set up hours earlier had already started to lose its lustre, flower petals on the floor wilted, invited guests had already exhausted all sitting positions by the time the concerned parties showed up, what followed was a rushed affair full of incessant apologies, what is the purpose of making a schedule if it cannot be adhered to? A wedding that was supposed to end at 3pm dragged to 6pm where heavy rain washed away the remaining little happiness left, I could see the distress showing on the bride’s face. Learn to keep time. Please.
#4. Phone Cameras Spoiling Photo Sessions
I am a photographer by talent and profession, one thing about wedding photography is that it has to be perfect and meticulous since there is no other chance of redoing the wedding. Days before the wedding, the parties involved outsource for professional photographers who will cover the event. This is followed by the wedding rehearsal a few days before the wedding day. The purpose of the rehearsal is to give the photographer a chance to check out the venue, plan where the lights will be, and most importantly, agree with the bride and bridegroom on how they should walk and pose and all that. So you can imagine after all this hustle, you are there on the D-Day trying to get the best shots possible and out of the blue a human being just walks in front of you, fishes out their camera phone and proceed to take shots of the bridal party, totally blocking your camera. Sometimes you can spend so much time trying to clear the way since every Tom, Dick and Harry turns into a wedding photographer, all clamouring to get a shot of the bride and groom, their phones and tablets raised above their heads, so infuriating! It’s not your wedding, be a guest, sit your ass down and let the pros do their job without interference. Stop cluttering space with your low quality point-and-shoot pinhole cameras. Phones and tablets should be banned from weddings.